Together Tonight
Contact & Support
Thank you for choosing Together Tonight, the private Yes, No, Maybe app for couples. Most questions are answered below. If yours isn’t, you’re welcome to reach us using the form at the bottom of this page.
Getting Started
How does a round work?
Tap Desire a Connection?, choose who’s starting, add any ideas of your own and tap Roll for Ideas. Answer each idea Yes, Maybe or No. Then either tap Pass the Phone so your partner can answer on the same device, or tap Send as a Picture to send the round to your partner’s phone. When both of you have answered, the app shows only the ideas you both said Yes to, plus one Maybe.
Do we need two phones?
No. Passing one phone back and forth works perfectly; your answers are hidden before the phone is handed over. Two phones are only needed if you’d like to answer apart.
What is the couple password for?
A round sent as a picture carries its ideas and answers encoded inside the image. Both phones must use the same couple password to open each other’s rounds. Set it in Settings > Change Couple Password and tell your partner. If you only ever pass one phone, the password still protects your history.
Sending and Opening Rounds
How do I open a round my partner sent me?
Tap Open an Invitation on the home screen. You can:
- Paste: in Messages, touch and hold the picture, choose Copy, then tap Paste in Together Tonight (or press Command-V with a keyboard on iPad).
- Photos: save the picture to Photos, then tap “Choose the Picture”.
- Share: tap the picture in Messages or Mail, use Share, and pick Together Tonight.
It says the picture has no round in it, or the password is wrong.
Check that both phones use exactly the same couple password. If the picture has no round in it, it was probably re-compressed on the way, for example by a social media app, a screenshot, or Messages set to send low-quality images (Settings > Apps > Messages > Low Quality Image Mode should be off). Send it again with Messages.
Can we use our own picture?
Yes. When you send a round or a result, choose the Yes/No/Maybe die, one of 23 romantic scenes, or tap Photos to pick one of your own. The picture you choose is also shown in your history.
How does my partner get the result?
The partner who answers second sees the result first. On the result screen, choose an idea (or Do Both) and tap Send the Result. When the other phone opens it, the waiting round in history is updated with the result.
Ideas
How do I add my own ideas?
Type them when you start a round, or add them any time in Settings > Edit Custom Ideas. Write each idea the way you want it done, using your names, for example “Sophie will give Daniel a slow back rub with warm oil.” Your partner sees it word for word, mixed in with the other ideas and never marked as yours. Ideas you type for a round count as your Yes; saved ideas that come back in later rounds are answered like any other.
How do I edit or delete a custom idea?
In Edit Custom Ideas, tap the pencil to reword an idea, or swipe left on it to delete it.
What does “Swap Who Does What” do?
Some ideas work either way round. The swap button trades the two roles before you answer, so the idea reads the way you’d like it. Ideas written for one particular partner, and your own custom ideas, are shown as written and can’t be swapped.
Can I change the wording of an idea?
Yes. When you start a round, tap Tweak This Idea on any card to put it in your own words. The change is for that round only. Your partner sees your wording, marked as yours, and answers it like any other idea. Only the person who starts the round can tweak.
What is Explore More?
Turn it on when you start a round and the app adds a few things to talk over, look up or shop for together, a step past your usual. If one matches, it’s shown alongside tonight’s choices as something to explore.
Does it work for same-sex couples?
Yes. Choose man or woman for each partner in Settings. For two men or two women, the app leaves out ideas that clearly don’t fit. Some ideas were written with a man and a woman in mind and may need a small tweak; answer No to anything that doesn’t feel right. Ideas written specifically for same-sex couples may come in a future update.
Some words are too explicit for us.
Switch Settings > Naughty Words to Masked and a selection of explicit words are playfully hidden behind hearts.
History, Reminders and Resets
I was interrupted halfway through a round.
Rounds save as you go. Open History and tap the unfinished round to carry on where you left off. If you leave a round with the back arrow, you can save it for later or discard it.
What is Blast from the Past?
In History, Blast from the Past skips the answering and picks tonight from ideas you’ve both already matched, favouring the ones you marked Again Sometime.
How do I delete history?
Swipe left on a round in History to delete it, or use Settings > Delete All History. Deleting removes the round from the list along with its picture and reminder; the ideas you matched are kept so Blast from the Past can still use them. To remove everything, including matches, ideas, names and the password, use Settings > Reset the App. Deleting only affects the phone you do it on.
How do reminders work?
On a result, tap Remind Us to choose later tonight, tomorrow evening, this weekend or a time of your own. In Settings you can also turn on a weekly “Maybe tonight?” nudge. Reminders never say what the idea is; the lock screen only ever shows “Maybe tonight?” or “Something you both said Yes to”. If reminders don’t appear, allow notifications for Together Tonight in the iOS Settings app.
Privacy and Terms
Together Tonight has no accounts, no servers, no ads and no tracking. Everything stays on your devices. Read the full Privacy Policy and our Terms of Use, or learn more on the Together Tonight overview.
Contact Us
Questions, feedback, an idea you’d love to see in the app, or a bug to report? Tell us which device and iOS version you’re using and what happened, and we’ll get back to you.
Testimonials and other helpful comments are also welcome and appreciated. We would love to hear from you.
Warm regards,
Michael and Barbara
Enhance Your Relationship and…
Enjoy Even Better Intimacy!
